Advice to girls wanting to ask guys out ;^)

Before I say anything, I just want to say good for you! "You've got balls!" Seriously though, I really am proud of you if your a girl asking a guy out. It takes courage to go against all of these "societal conventions" that it "has" to be the guy asking the girl out. It honestly doesn't matter who you love, and who asks the other out. If you love someone, be honest with both YOURSELF and them (notice I said YOU first). Here is a few quick pointers from both Males and Females, and personal thoughts from me about girls asking out a dude. Once again, I am NOT a professional, so you should really just follow your heart. Good luck! Cheers! :^)

1. Be Yourself: If a guy doesn't like who you really are, he doesn't deserve you. You are a beautiful person, and deserve the best dude out there! If you are acting like you, you will attract events and people that are also like you! It's literally that simple. Show the world that amazing YOU!
2. Communicate: Guys aren't as good as communicating their feelings as girls are (in general) so be clear on how you are feeling. Guys can sometimes become confused, and can think you are sending the wrong signals such as leading on, or something else. Men are not mind readers, yet neither are you. Keep good communication open between the both of you. How else could he know if you don't like something? 
3. Don't fall into peer or BF pressure: You are a remarkable person. In the matter of fact, the ONLY person that is worthy of controlling your life is YOU! Remember, this is YOUR life your living, and no one else's. That being said, if your boyfriend wants to do something, don't do it just because of him, do it because you trust him with trying something new, or you want to do it as well. Live your own life.
4. Your beautiful: You are an amazing, fantastic individual! LOVE WHO YOU ARE! You are frigging awesome, and the world hopefully knows that too! It doesn't matter what shape, or size, or religion  or colour, or.. WHATEVER! You are YOU! And I think THAT is pretty cool! ;^)
5. Have Fun!: Relationships should be a fun experience, enjoy it!
6. It's OK to make mistakes: As a teen, we are still learning how to handle, well, life! It's OK to mistakes, just make sure you LEARN from them, 
7. Learn to move on: If he says no, or dumps you, do yourself a favor and MOVE ON. From personal experience, kit does no good for you to dwell in the past and think about the "What if's." Live you life, you never know what could be around the corner! :^)
8. It's OK to be single: I know, it probably sounds stupid, especially to me, but it really is OK to be single. This is an excellent time to do things that YOU want to do, and plus you get to save a little bit of money ;^) 
9. Have "Me" time: Remember, the happiest couples are couples that give each other personal time. This includes not being "clingy" with texts, phone calls, etc.. By all means, its awesome to communicate with each other, just make sure you have some time apart with yourself, other friends, family, hobbies, etc... 
10. Honesty: Be honest with both YOURSELF and HIM! Ask him out, be honest! Remember to respect him, and make sure he respects you. If you like, or don't like something  don't play any guessing games, and please just let him know!

Advice to guys wanting to ask girls out ;^)

So, I've got some advice after asking both males and females, as well as looking into my own personal experiences. Here is a helpful list of a few things that may help you asking out that pretty girl who has stolen your heart. ;^) I am NOT a professional, so just follow your heart, alright? Cheers!

1. Know her: OK,  before you ask that girl out, make sure you KNOW HER first. Ask some mutual friends and see what she's into. Knowing what she's into can help you see if your compatible  and can help make it easier for you to break the ice and make a conversation with her. 
2. Be yourself: NEVER change how you are for another person. If you like music, and they hate music, don't start hating music because of her. Being YOU is the best thing you are at, and you should always make sure to love yourself before you love another. Act natural! Just laugh, have fun and enjoy the things you love to enjoy. Remember, like attracts like, so if you are in situations all the time that you live, such as Swimming, you might meet your future girlfriend in a pool. Plus, if you are honest about yourself, it makes getting a LOT more easier (not that I would know.)
3. Love yourself before another: They say you can never love another until you love yourself. and this is true. If YOU don't love yourself, how is a girl suppose to love YOU. Find time to love yourself, and see how cool of a person you really are! LOVE YOURSELF! You are the only person in the world that can love yourself, no one can love you for you. Once you love who you are, your self-confidence will also rise, and it will be easier, and more enjoyable to find that special someone!
4. Be Honest: Don't go all crazy when asking her out, just be honest and in a non-awkward situation (Don't ask her out in front of other people or friends) Just find some time where you can ask her out for a coffee or a walk or something! 
5. Don't be CLINGY!: OK, probably the MOST POPULAR WITH GIRLS that I have talked to is that they don't want their boyfriend to be clingy. Basically, don't always be texting/phoning her. Couples need room! Give her some! A healthy relationship with couples includes away time from each other  Learn to live your OWN life, not hers. Once again, everyone is different, but just adjust to your partners needs.
6. Go at her pace: OK, guys, we know we all love the bodies of girls, etc... DON'T make her feel uncomfortable. It is reported by a few servery s that people are losing their virginity around the ages 18-28. It's your decision as a couple if you want to risk sex. It can be rewarding, but one must remember the consequences of friendships, disease or even having a child. do NOT force her into anything, or you may be facing an awkward no, or in a more serious case: a police charge. 
7. Have Fun!: Relationships should be a fun experience, enjoy it!
8. It's OK to make mistakes: As a teen, we are still learning how to handle, well, life! It's ok to mistakes, just make sure you LEARN from them, 
9. Learn to move on: If she says no, or dumps you, do yourself a favor and MOVE ON. From personal experience, kit does no good for you to dwell in the past and think about the "What if's." Live you life, you never know what could be around the corner! :^)
10. It's OK to be single: I know, it probably sounds stupid, especially to me, but it really is OK to be single. This is an excellent time to do things that YOU want to do, and plus you get to save a little bit of money ;^) 

The future

Who am I? What will I be?
When I leave into the world, when I leave my family,
The sun rises on a brand new day,
Yet I cannot see the shore of the other side of the bay,

What will I do? What will I become?
Schools, Careers and jobs,
Unknown for me,
Where will this confusion stop?

Sometimes an adventure, and sometimes a curse,
Where will the wheel stop? No one knows,
Even my heart is in confusion,
And as well, my soul,

Yesterday is the past, tomorrow the future,
One cannot control either, so live today: the present,
Forget about the venom, the addiction of lies,
Live your life today, and the rest will just fly!

Is it possible to be to nice? -Opinion

Yes. After asking multiple girls, guys and even looking into myself, being too nice is defiantly an issue when seeking a relationship.

With that being said, don't change who you are! If you are a nice person (like me) then just be yourself! Why pretend to be someone you arn't? Sure, many girls like "bad boys" but that is because they show an amazing amount of confidence. So basically, remember to stand up for what you believe in, and you should be alright ;^)

My experience thus far with Love and relationships

It really is an "over complicate" story for me. So far, I feel as if I have been teased by love. In grade 12, I had my first crush. When prom came around, I was stupid and never asked her out. We both went alone, and the same with after prom (we both stayed in the same cabin too.) When I finally shared my feelings with her, being totally honest and asking her out, it was too late. I had to go to my DND course, and she was getting ready for university. to this day, I still feel the pain and sadness from not asking her. I let myself down, and I can't forgive myself for that.

In my victory lap in high school, I thought I finally got over the hardness of love when i fell for someone else. We were both in the same club and everything. This time, I would consult my friends about love before I asked her out. Just when I was about to open my mouth, one of my closest friends said that HE loved her and was about to ask her out. All my friends supported him, and I made another stupid move: I didn't say anything. For the next few months, I died inside as I watched him and her both "try it." When it didn't work out, I was honest with both of them, and felt like I missed the train, again.

I then had a few smaller "sorties" after that, asking a few friends out here and there. Still, no success. They would always give an excuse, such as: Oh, i'm to busy" or "Your not my type" or "I'm interested in someone else" and many, many other statements.

Most recently, I asked my one new friend out. She was literally the girl of my dreams. Kind, beautiful, from another place and had that "passion" for life. Just before I was going to causally ask her out, she began to rant on how "[she] didn't believe in relationships" and how "[she doesn't] want a relationship and [doesn't] have the time" and so on. This discouraged me, so stupid me, I didn't even try and backed off. next week, I find out that she is on her fifth date with another person. Am I doing something wrong?

There's been a few more things here and there, and most recently, I thought I could ask this other friend of mine out, but it wouldn't work. I don't know anymore.

I know I am young, and there are plenty of fish in the sea, but I just honestly don't know what to do anymore. Love sucks... Everyone I know or have even heard of me always says that "You are the nicest, funnest and bestest dude ever!" and "Whoever you date is one lucky gal!" but then why hasn't anything happened? Meh, I am 18 and about to go off to Uni/college. I guess we will have to see where life goes.

Free bird - The free bird, flying alone (Adult content)

Being alone is probably the worst feeling for a human to feel. Your world seems to be a dark place with no point of going forward. You begin to think that you are the problem, or that you are doing something wrong. You've tried for over a year now with a few different people, but are denied the feeling of being loved back. You are just another friend. You drown in your thoughts as you write your emotions down on paper, because it is you way of screaming to the world "I want to be loved back!" and just like a horror movie, no one can hear you scream.

There are beautiful people, everywhere. You are known among everyone as a kind, responsible, loyal and loving friend. But you are only a friend. You want to try be something more and try to be in a relationship. It's grade thirteen, and your getting ready for post secondary, and you have NEVER been in a relationship before, never dated and never got your first kiss. You feel like you've missed out on life, so you start trying and trying to find love. You start to try so hard that you start to break. People start asking others to their prom, and this reminds you of all the horrible, dark, and scarring memories that started this loveless mess in the first place. You were not strong. As a friend, you still help your friends ask others out to prom, and dates. You love them, but you let them run over you. You feel like you opinion doesn't matter, why should it? This is the love of their life and you are their friend,. so you should help them. You are a carpet. You let people step all over you and stomp you into the fucking Ground.You are garbage. You ask yourself, with your mighty self esteem issues, why the fuck do you get up in the morning. You are just going to feel the same crappy emotions at the end of the day. It is because you are Naive, young and have the demoniacal emotion called Hope. You have faith in a better future. You think you deserve to be happy; you always get up and out of your bed the same way. You go into the world, and  see you friends cuddling, laughing, kissing each other and enjoying their lives and you feel stuck on the outside; no you don't give up, you put on a mask and you go out anyways and you pretend to be alright and hid your real emotions from the world. You feel alone.

Why can't you be loved? You have amazing friends and family, and a great reputation with everyone that has ever heard your name. You have achieved so many large goals! You are healthy, you live in the wonderful country of Canada with a roof over your head, yet you feel strange. You feel numb. why?

Is it you? Everyone says you are not their type, or they are with someone else, or they just have too much school, or are leaving for school and don't want to complicate things, or don't believe in relationships, then the next day, they are out smooching on another guy's face. Out of the entire world, you have given so much kindness, gifts, help, and love, but what the hell is going wrong?

You go to bed as usual, and think of your past, present and future. So many times, have you been teased by love. Not asking her out, asking too late, not being yourself, letting others go ahead of you, feeling or being "stupid" and people claiming "don't worry, there are many fish in the sea, and maybe you just haven't found the right person yet. She's out there somewhere." Why can't you get anyone? I know I ask the question: "Is it me?"

I no longer know what to do. I don't know what to say, or even believe in anymore. The once sparkling, pure ponds of my heart and soul are now murky, foggy waters of lost hope and lost loves. Why? Am I even ready to love? And if not, what makes me ready? I am still young...

Welcome

Hello! this is my first post here! On this blog, I will be basically sharing more "in depth" opinions and stories. I wish to remain anonymous due to me wanting to eventually getting a job, and not wanting my bosses to creep me online. I truly hope you enjoy your stay, and thank you so much for reading. You are AWESOME!

-The Passionate Pilot ;^)